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Mary Ann Aparece-Verga: 29 lessons in life
In the six years that Mary Ann "Meann" Aparece-Verga has been in the Department of Interior and Local Government (DILG)-Bohol, she said that it gives her the opportunity to know the world better, meet different kinds of people and be at the ringside of history.
"Constant exposure to people of different personalities shapes me to become a more mature person. I become more cautious with my words and language. It also requires a good transition of theoretical knowledge on social psychology to practical wisdom," shares this strong and resolute woman. "We help local government units establish a true sense of teammanship among its internal and external stakeholders, facilitating participatory planning, initiating a system of coordination and cooperation among local officials and the CSOs and brokering information to people who know and do not know. Most importantly is creating a culture of performance management thru different assessment tools created and developed by the department."
Unlike other people, Meann welcomes her real age as naturally as breathing. This woman definitely knows how to take care of her health and over-all appearance (she's the Helen of Troy in our college days; the face that launched a thousand ships). That is why through the years, Meann maintains her youthful look, natural zest and vigor to fulfill her significant roles in life as a DILG officer and community volunteer, wife and a mother to be.
"I feel like my life is just beginning," says Meann who got married to Dr. Jon Mark Verga of Cebu City on Jan. 23, 2010. "In the past year or so I've learned quite much about family, love, friendship, and career," she quips.
Mary Ann "Meann" Aparece-Verga (with hubby
Dr. Jon Mark Verga) learns so much of family,
love, friendship and career.
Meann will turn 29 on Dec. 30 yet. Just the same, Bared asked her to make a list of the 29 lessons she has learned in life.
- Taking into account the practices of my family of orientation, i value the significance of frequent communication. With our busy schedules, it is difficult to find sufficient time to spend with one another in meaningful conversation. It is extremely important for families to make time to communicate. Talk in the car; turn the TV off and eat dinner together; and schedule informal family meetings to talk about important issues that affect your family. There are many creative ways to make time to communicate with other family members.
- It's the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary. I believe this to be true and have experienced this with my own family. When I think of the times where we laughed the most it was when we were doing the simplest things. Swimming in a pool, combing a beach for shells, playing badminton, or sharing a delicious meal – all simple things making up the best times we've had as a family.
- If you want to keep up with your friends. Call them. Don't wait, it's up to you to maintain and initiate contact.
- When I got married to my husband, Jon Mark Verga, I learned to tell him specific things that I like about him and I never fail to say "I love you" every day. This may seem obvious but reinforcement strengthens relationships.
- Care more about my appearance. This is a gift I can give to my partner. You wouldn't go on a first date unkempt and sloppy, so don't adopt the habit once you are in a relationship.
- The date never ends. My husband and if always treat our relationship like we are still dating and the excitement, love, and commitment will continue. Be a "good date" and you will make a great partner.
- Be real. Nobody wants to be around a fake person.
- Those material possessions are just possessions and these social symbols won't necessarily categorize you and give you a true sense of happiness and contentment. Take a moment to embrace, recognize, and experience the small things in life that make you happy.
- There is only one way to learn, and that is through action. Trying to learn without doing is like trying to lose weight by watching someone else exercise. It's just not going to work. We are all fundamentally hands-on learners
- Learn to understand the universal language, the language without words. There is so much more said from a person than just words alone. You can read the expression on someone's face, sense their body language, or hear the tone in their voice. These things are all part of the unspoken language. The more conscious we become at noticing them, the better we become at interpreting them.
- Do what you love even if you don't get paid for it.
- Follow your passions and dreams. Start by making a decision and taking baby steps to bring it to life. You'll live a happier life because of it.
- Don't let the school system brainwash you into being average.
- After being exposed to a broad field of public service at the very young age of 22, i learned to trust my gut, recognize omens and follow them. Many times our subconscious has already made a decision before we've caught up and made the same decision. Sometimes we don't make the same decision and then something does not feel right or there is a persistent nagging that bothers us. Trust your gut, it may be more accurate than you think.
- Successful people read books.
- Don't worry about things. Worrying does nothing productive and only reinforces the issue.
- We all interpret the world through different realities so don't expect everyone to understand yours all the time. Feel the music and just dance. Who cares what anyone thinks. You'll stand out more being too self-conscious. It's okay to be different.
- You might think you're not good enough, but you'll surprise yourself when you try.
- Stop watching too much TV and do not invest too much time Facebooking. Do something productive.
- It's okay if you don't like something. Just don't pretend that you do.
- If you stay in the corner and do nothing, you will never be that lucky. Remember that there is no such thing as good luck and bad luck. You either make good things happen or you make bad things happen. Nothing more, nothing less.
- Stop texting or checking your phone when you're with other people. It's rude and it's sad.
- It's alright to complain sometimes just don't make it a habit.
- Drink more water.
- Don't fear the unknown. As long as you're resourceful and competent with knowledge, skills, experience and behaviour, there is nothing that you cannot handle. Have confidence in yourself at all times.
- It's okay if you can't want to travel the whole world. There are lots of things to explore in your own backyard.
- When you communicate, determine your audience.
- Always dress according to the occasion.
- Live the present but do not compromise the future.
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